Soon be time to collect up the Christmas cards and put them way, or give them away for charity; but first to read them all again to remember the friendships that gave rise to them being sent.
Then to recall the kindness and thought with which Christmas gifts were chosen and carefully wrapped and labelled with motifs that wished you a Happy Christmas in the hope that you would appreciate the gift itself.
Wrong sizes, wrong colours are only wrong in your eyes, not in the eye of the provider. And so you should wear them with pride - even though they may not be for the sport intended.
Super socks Jack, although I was unaware that your Grandmother wanted me to take up boxing!
Mind you, her mind was probably on the gift you can't buy:
here she is with the latest addition to our family, great grandson Harrison.
Saturday, 31 December 2016
Wednesday, 28 December 2016
Happy New Year
Writing a blog at the end of the year is only of value if there is anything new to say.
Re-writing the year's news, which is a newspaper trick to fill up space, is of not much value because in a blog you can just turn back the pages and see it all again if you feel so inclined.
The only picture of note which you haven't seen before is the view from our window in autumn which I never got round to showing you: here it is.
Could have shown you our personal goodwinmail postage stamp:
Re-writing the year's news, which is a newspaper trick to fill up space, is of not much value because in a blog you can just turn back the pages and see it all again if you feel so inclined.
The only picture of note which you haven't seen before is the view from our window in autumn which I never got round to showing you: here it is.
Could have shown you our personal goodwinmail postage stamp:
Thought about going down to the beach at Hamworthy to see if there were any Russian submarines.
The only danger about was the man and his wife walking on water.
Went to Upton Country Park today to film winter scenes for you,
but it all ended up in disappointment.
Just have to look forward to 2017 to see what's new.
Happy New Year to you all.
Monday, 12 December 2016
We are getting ready for Christmas.
Twenty-five years ago I started writing a series of letters to my grandson Jack who was then two years old. Maybe some things have changed with time, but then again perhaps not.
Dear Jack,
We are getting ready for Christmas. You are coming up to us with your Mum and Dad and sisters. Every year you come to us. There was one exception when we decided to have a quiet Christmas because your Mum decided to go to her in-laws for a change. That was the most boring Christmas we ever spent! So, despite the fact that our house will look like a corporation tip when you have all been in it for five minutes, we are still looking forward to having you.
The words, “getting ready for Christmas”, conjure up excitement and the thrill of taking part in the family re-union and going to church to midnight mass and carol services.
There is the nursery-school nativity play to anticipate, where we can come and watch you taking your part as a shepherd. This year your Grandma made you a shepherd’s cloak and hood of many colours. We went with you and your Dad to the church near your school to see you with infant angels and animals and Joseph and Mary and, believe it or not, a real baby who took the part of Jesus.
There were all the proud parents with their cameras, and the teachers gathering the children round them. And there was you, sitting on your Grandma’s lap, refusing not only not to be dressed as a shepherd, but in fact to have nothing to do with the proceedings whatsoever.
No-one really knows what goes on in a little boy’s mind at such moments, but I like to think you were clever enough not to want to go through life being a shepherd, and so there was no point in starting off as one in the first place!
‘The spirit of Christmas’ conveys tolerance and kindness. But, there are annual activities to be undertaken before we arrive at Christmas itself, which can affect this ‘spirit’.
Firstly we have - that is your grandma and me - a discourse on the choice of Christmas tree. When I tell you that we have been the possessors of an artificial silver-coloured tinsel tree for years, you may wonder why it is necessary to discuss the matter at all!
Well, you see, your mother does not like artificial Christmas trees. Like me, your mum is sometimes illogical. Tearing-up trees by their roots or cutting them down with chain-saws does not seem at conflict with her enlightened views on the ecological troubles that inflict us all at present. The discussion is necessary therefore, because it is a step to avoiding any area of conflict that might arise when families assemble at Christmas.
You would be surprised how many areas of conflict can arise after a couple of bottles of claret with Christmas dinner!
Your Grandma’s aversion to ‘real’ Christmas trees has nothing to do with the environment, other than that existing in the house, caused by the needles from the dying tree falling onto the floor and being found in every corner of every room until next March. You can even find them in sandwiches if you are unlucky!
Deciding between the views of your mum and your grandma is a question of compromise. Last year we had a ‘real’ tree - this year we are having the artificial one.
That all the tinsel falls off the tree and is found in every room until next March - and in sandwiches if you are unlucky - does not seem to worry your grandma too much.
I have to go up into the loft to bring down the decorations and the tinsel Christmas tree. This involves fetching the ladder from the garage, breaking the ceiling lamp fitting in the porch with the ladder, scraping the paint on the wall as I carry the ladder upstairs, and banging my knuckles on something in the loft as I pull out the boxes and bags of decorations needed to decorate the house.
A Christmas tree is not a tree without ‘fairy’ lights. They are strung on electric flex. The objective is to place them on the tree in a reasonably acceptable pattern so that people who come into the house can say: “what a pretty Christmas tree”.
As a piece of advice for the future, please remember to plug in the lights before you fix them to the tree to ensure that the bulbs all light up. After you have done this, you can fix them to the tree, which takes a lot more than the ten minutes you thought it would take. At last they are all in place. You turn on the lights - and of course they don't work. Bulb by bulb, you tighten each one and replace the fuse in the plug and they still do not light up. It is then you check the wiring to find that one piece has broken. Back to the garage to find the soldering-iron and, about two hours later, if you are as good at ‘do-it-yourself’ as I am, the wire is repaired and - surprise, surprise, the lights work!
It is at this time that your grandmother discovers that she has forgotten something of importance in the way of food for Christmas that she just has to go out to buy. Her departure is accompanied by such sayings as:
“I see you are in the Christmas spirit then!”
This is mainly due to the fact that language accompanying the preparations for Christmas is not entirely apt for the occasion. This is also the time for well worn phrases to be repeated from previous Christmases.
“We’ll have a proper tree next year.”
“We’ll spend Christmas in a hotel next year.” “I hate Christmas.”
None of it is meant of course. We still look forward to the day itself. Opening the presents, of which you will have many, is exciting for all of us. That you will probably spend much of the time playing with the boxes and the wrapping is of little consequence. It is the fact that we are all together that is important.
The sceptics will say that this is not what Christmas is about. But it is, because, it was the gathering of families that gave rise to Jesus being born in Bethlehem. Even this is only of importance if you remember that your family, for all its faults, is something worth having and being part of. Opening presents is an indication of finding kindness from others, who have thought about you before Christmas and tried to discover what it is that would make you happy.
When we left you after the nativity play, in which you didn’t play, you cried: “I want my Grandma!”
She didn’t want you to cry, but she was happy that more than anything else, you wanted your Grandma.
Merry Christmas Jack!
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